Summary: The next phase in the feminist revolution has begun, as women unleash their rage as a tool for social change – and men begin to jump off the bandwagon. This might a turning point. What comes next might be even more exciting. What if men initiated 50% of divorces? Divorce equality! At the end see two new books about feminist rage.
Feminists unleash their righteous grrl-rage!
Centuries of effort made public displays of rage, racism, and (lastly) sexism inappropriate in most American communities. In one generation, the Left is erasing all that progress. None can predict where this unleashing of women’s rage will take America. When reading it, imagine this article with the genders reversed.
“Thanks for not raping us, all you ‘good men.’ But it’s not enough.”
By Victoria Bissell Brown, a professor emerita of history at Grinnell College.
A “perspective” article in the WaPo.
“A flood of rage is rushing through women’s brains.
Why can’t men organize to change themselves?”
“I yelled at my husband last night. Not pick-up-your-socks yell. Not how-could-you-ignore-that-red-light yell. This was real yelling. This was 30 minutes of from-the-gut yelling. Triggered by a small, thoughtless, dismissive, annoyed, patronizing comment. Really small. A micro-wave that triggered a hurricane. I blew. Hard and fast. And it terrified me. I’m still terrified by what I felt and what I said. I am almost 70 years old. …Yet in that roiling moment, screaming at my husband as if he represented every clueless male on the planet (and I every angry woman of 2018), I announced that I hate all men and wish all men were dead.”
Her husband responded like a true beta.
“My husband of 50 years did not have to stifle a laugh. He took it dead seriously. He did not defend his remark, he did not defend men. He sat, hunched and hurt, and he listened. …
Of course, that only spurred her rage to new heights.
“The winds calmed ever so slightly in that moment. And then the storm surge welled up in me as I realized the pathetic impotence of nice men’s plan to rebuild the wreckage by listening to women. As my rage rushed through the streets of my mind, toppling every memory of every good thing my husband has ever done (and there are scores of memories), I said the meanest thing I’ve ever said to him: Don’t you dare sit there and sympathetically promise to change. Don’t say you will stop yourself before you blurt out some impatient, annoyed, controlling remark. No, I said, you can’t change. You are unable to change. You don’t have the skills and you won’t do it. …And you cannot change.”
Why should he change in the face of an irrational woman, bereft of any sense of fairness, an entitled princess frustrated that she does not receive her due subservience from those around her? She demands the equivalent of “Danegeld”, to be followed inevitably by further demands.
“In the centuries of feminist movements that have washed up and away, good men have not once organized their own mass movement to change themselves and their sons or to attack the mean-spirited, teasing, punching thing that passes for male culture. Not once. Bastards.”
She does not ask if women have ever organized to improve bad aspects of their “culture.” Her sweeping characterization of “male” culture (whatever that is) is quite mad. Especially since in the space of a generation American women have gained rights and privileges without precedent in history. Women asked for them, and men agreed. Reading this rant, perhaps we were wrong to do so. She then has a moment of accidental wisdom.
“Don’t listen to me. Listen to each other. Talk to each other. Earn your power for once.”
Men are doing exactly as she recommends, as seen in a small way by two posts this week on the FM website: Women’s self-esteem: has been boosted to their self-destruction — and A surprise end to the gender wars: men will stand together. She ends with two prophecies. Many men will agree with the first. It depends on the how the reader defines “we.”
“No man right now understands the flood that is rushing through women’s brains …Pay attention people: If we do not raise boys to walk humbly and care deeply, if we do not demand that men do more than just listen, we will all drown in the flood.”
The second assumes that men will be weak, like her husband.
“And there is no patriarchal Noah to save us.”
History suggests that she is wrong. There are remnants in America of masculinity and male pride: men who are African-Americans, Hispanics, migrants, far-Right extremists, military (active duty and vets), police, and Muslim. The rest of us can learn from them. And strong men find leaders. We may get a patriarchal Noah to save us from the flood of radical feminists’ mad rage.
Revolt of the liberal betas!
“MIA: the liberal men we love”
By Amy Butcher at Literary Hub.
“Everywhere across America, liberal unions once so strong in love – relationships founded on mutual respect and trust and commitment and loyalty – have found themselves upended, or at the very least foundationally rocked, by the political escalation as it relates, perhaps most specifically, to womanhood and gender. Twenties or thirties or forties, children or no children, married or engaged or committed via long-term relationships: I have met more women than I can count in these past three weeks alone who have confided, in low voices – or once shouting, disbelieving, desperate, we have three children, one woman cried to me – of the disruption in their own home.”
Next she describes the revolt of the betas. This could be big. Bigger than big.
“Of men – previously, pleasantly, progressive – rising up with unprecedented hostility, anger, abandon, and resentment.”
Next comes the ritual claim of “fascism”, since to Leftists that means stuff you don’t like is Hitler.
“Who is it that said that when fascism eventually comes to America, it will be draped in the flag and holding the cross? I think it is worth adding that it will wear the face you love.”
Next she tells tales that are long overdue, as men awaken to the new world built by feminists.
“My husband worries about our daughter, she told me recently. That I’m only teaching her she’s a victim. …My husband filed for divorce, another confided a few days later. He said he loved me and shared in some of my frustrations, but “could no longer tolerate,” he said, the level at which I felt them. Hours later, another wrote to tell me of a save-the-date no longer in need of saving. My fiancé called off the engagement, she wrote. He loves me – he’s sure, and I believe him – but he’s ‘overwhelmed’ with everything and ‘doesn’t know how to comfort me’ and ‘doesn’t love who I’ve become.’
“Who I’ve become: a phrase I’ve heard most frequently by women who have found themselves rightly riled, women who have perhaps never before – until recently – cited themselves as feminists report the fury, the frustration, the foundational shift as it’s occurring in the men they love so fiercely and the relationships that hold them as a consequence to the male gaze gazing now at their woman, riled.”
Seldom mentioned by feminists is the near 50% divorce rate, most of which are initiated by women (not all women love their husbands “fiercely”). Men have learned to recognize the signs, and act preemptively. And they have learned from women that “till death do us part” means “until I’m no longer having fun.” Equality demands that men initiate 50% of divorces. Who knows how that will improve marriage? Perhaps such ill-tempered rages by wives would become less common when they have immediate consequences. Perhaps men achieving divorce equality with men would be a Samson in the Temple moment that knocks down the institution of marriage.
Read the rest of her article. She is touchingly unaware that she might be even slightly at fault, and that there are two sides to every such debate in life.
Appeasing feminists doesn’t work
As radical feminists take American society into new territory, Chis Jenson’s song “Drunk Girl” urges men to adopt obsolete values of chivalry. He gets abuse in return.
“Take a drunk girl home
Let her sleep all alone
Leave her keys on the counter your number by her phone
Pick up her life she threw on the floor
Leave the hall lights on walk out and lock the door
That’s how she knows the difference between a boy and man.”
See this scathing reply, similar to that of Victoria Bissell Brown above.
“The Kavanaugh Hearing, Chris Janson’s ‘Drunk Girl,’
and Country Music’s #MeToo Misfire”
By Kathryn Schulz at The New Yorker.
“Sitting in my car, I laughed, swore, sputtered. Because, really, where on earth to begin? Seldom has a musical creation been so well-intentioned yet so wrongheaded. …{it’s} a P.S.A. {public service announcement} about not raping women. ….Much as the man in the song doesn’t deserve credit for not raping a woman, the man who sings it doesn’t deserve credit for his allegedly bold stand against rape.”
That’s a bizarre statement. The song advocates doing a good deed. She might as well interpret Boy Scout’s training to help the elderly cross the street as an announcement that they won’t mug them. The article gets weirder.
“To its credit, the song gets one thing mostly right, which is the woman at the heart of it. …Janson does her the rare courtesy of not chastising her for drinking. On the contrary, he makes it the man’s responsibility to behave appropriately ….”
Dalrock’s Law of Feminism: “Feminism is the assertion that men are evil and naturally want to harm women, followed by pleas to men to solve all of women’s problems.” {Example here.} But this is taking it to a mad extreme. What lays this responsibility on men to protect women from the consequences of their actions? Do they at least get cab fare at Uber rates for this service?
“Taking a drunk girl home, not to have sex with her but to make sure she gets there safely, is not the difference between a boy and a man; it is the difference between the perpetrator of a violent crime and an averagely decent, law-abiding human being.”
No, it is the difference between a criminal and a saint. Few people, men or women, go to such lengths to help strangers. Especially as this involves the risk of a sexual assault charge from the drunk, perhaps crazy or criminal, woman (such false accusations are common) – whose home he has entered while she was drunk.
This is modern feminism. The advances of women have been supported by enough men to make them happen. At what point will those men jump off the bandwagon? Look at what it got Chris Janson.
The invaluable Dalrock
For those interested in understanding modern feminism, I recommend reading Dalrock. Two are relevant to this subject. This post is based on his post Ugly feminists high on rage. He draws some important conclusions. Also see Has feminism jumped the shark.
He has some brilliant analysis about the relationship of feminism and chivalry, all well-worth reading.
- How chivalry (and mamma’s boys) brought us women’s suffrage and feminism.
- Feminists resent his chivalry even as he chivalrously supports feminism – about Chris Janson’s song.
- Other posts about chivalry.
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- The feminist revolutionaries have won. Insurgents have arisen to challenge the new order. As always, they’re outlaws.
- As the Left’s social revolution wins victories, a revolt begins.
- The coming crash as men and women go their own way.
- MeToo discovers that there is always a counterrevolution.
- Society changes as men learn the Dark Triad.
- The patriarchy built this city and will return after it dies — an article by Phillip Longman in Foreign Policy.
- Game is toxic to feminism.
New books about women’s righteous grrl-power rage
Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger
Good and Mad: The Revolutionary Power of Women’s Anger
