Summary: Here is a brief guide to the new war of the sexes. It’s too controversial for the major media, so discussed mostly by extremists. Consider this a rough cut, the boiled down one-thousand word version. It’s a fair version, and so probably disliked by both men and women. Post your critique in the comments.
The war between the sexes has broken out again, in an unusually virulent form. Women, with support of the Left, have created a new order. But neither women nor men appear happy with it. Their complaints, rising in volume and bitterness, have become a dull roar across the internet. Large numbers of both young men and women react to the new gender regime by dropping out and becoming celibate. How many will marry in their late 20s and early 30s? The future of our society depends on the answer.
For years the response to these trends has been mockery and other forms of denial. Now that appears foolish, so the conversation has shifted to the equally daft assignment of blame. Since life is short, let’s guess about a more important question: Why has this happened?
Here are answers you will seldom see in the major media. It’s not an explanation unless women’s and men’s behavior are each described as rational. Here are my first attempts.
America seen from a woman’s perspective
Empowered women have, naturally enough, shifted the balance of power vs. men. One effect is their shift in preferences to bad boys. Technically, men with the dark triad traits of narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy. For more about this see The war of the sexes heats up as men learn about the Dark Triad (especially see the links to research showing women’s preference for such men).
Offsetting this, many women have an almost visceral disgust with betas (even more so for omegas), as easily seen in any bar or dance. And there are so there are so many betas and omegas these days. We can only guess why this is so. Falling testosterone levels, sedentary lifestyles (physically weak men), modern education (feminist mothers and in doctrinaire feminist schools producing spiritually weak men), and rising rates of male obesity — all probably contribute to this sad result.
Women who choose to play the game find sex easy to get, but enduring relationships less so. Hence countless complaints such as “Peter Pan Syndrome: A Man’s Fear of Commitment”: “This is when a man is afraid to grow up. They usually put themselves first and do not want to commit to anything. They are unable to face adult feelings and responsibilities.” Also common are operational responses to the new man, such as “Learn how to make him commit: The Secret Lives of Men” by Joel D. Amos.
How has women’s liberation changed marriage? As usual in the social sciences, estimates of divorce rates — and which spouse initiates them — vary. Roughly 40%-50% of first marriages end in divorce (that fraction varies with the couple’s social and economic circumstances). Women initiate roughly 70% of them.
The reason for high divorce rates is also easy to see: economics and logic. This WaPo article tells the tale, although masked by the usual feminist framing (here’s another study with the same conclusion). A substantial fraction of women marry men, get the children they desire, have men help them through the difficult early years of child-raising, realize they no longer need their husband, and file for divorce. The government extracts child-support payments, with levels set by notoriously pro-feminist family courts.
America seen from a man’s perspective
“You dismiss her beauty and good nature, yet I would be very much mistaken if your sex in general does not think those claims the highest a woman could possess!”
— Said by Emma in Jane Austin’s novel. See the film with Gwyneth Paltrow!
Women’s liberation has produced a range of reactions by men. Some men have responded by abandoning the rat race, & changing American society (explaining some of the otherwise mysterious decline in men’s labor force participation). Some have become insurgents, employing Game to get sex (the equivalent of 4GW in real war) — faking the behavior of alpha males. There is the Men’s Rights movement. And a thousand and one websites where men complain about women.
Women’s economic independence means that they can — and are, of course, entitled — to dress, diet, and act to please themselves instead of men. The result can be seen on America’s college campuses. That cures men of the sexual assault called “lookism”! Work, sports, computer games, booze, and drugs provide what many men consider adequate substitutes to pursuit of women.
As for marriage — it now comes with high rates of women divorcing men, women-friendly family courts, and inescapable child support payments. Does it make sense for men to marry? Women raised with kick-ass role models are fun, but often difficult to live with (watching the great romances on TV shows creates the urge to scream “don’t do it” to the male lead). Sex is easy to get for those who use Game. Why play a game with such high odds of losing big? Romance is just bait in the trap for men.
See this extreme example: “I’m A Woman Who Cheated On Her Deployed Husband, This Is Why I Did It“. She skillfully deploys feminist philosophy to justify her actions. Note that she still collects his pay, but plans to leave him eventually.
Will men’s willingness to marry change? Watch the men of generation Z!
Music provides another perspective on modern America
Music videos provide a candid perspective on these matters. Here are two examples by great pop stars.
Taylor Swift shows how hot women can play the game in our era.
Have a beta boyfriend to take you to dinner and a movie. Have him take you home. Kiss his cheek at the door and fondly wave good-bye. Then go back out with your real boyfriend. A bad boy, a real man. He might treat you like dirt and mock your feminist principles. But you’ll love him anyway. Just as Taylor Swift does.
Life as an omega: you can dream, but that’s all you get.
For the advanced version, look at some rap videos.
Rap videos show real men. Men mysteriously exempt from feminist condemnation for their misogyny. They show that women love them. No wonder so many alt-right white guys are racists. They are envious.
We have set up trends in American society that might work out badly for us, as our younger generations react to them as individuals logically — with unfortunately aggregate effects on them and society.
How to fix this? Working for social change is like searching for the end of a ball of string, or looking for the right cleavage point in a raw diamond. Right and wrong are irrelevant. My guess (emphasis on guess) is that men are the key. For two generations America has sought to produce weak men. Physically weak. Spiritually weak. Uncertain about their role in society and very identity.
My recommendation would be to change this, starting with an emphasis on men’s physical strength. Diet and exercise. Make men strong again. Makes hats with the MMSA logo! It is a simple and achievable goal, from which many benefits would flow. More about this on a future post. Especially important: what white men can learn from black men (short version: a lot).
For More Information
- Beckett shows our future. She chooses wisely & marries Castle, but dreams at night of her alpha ex-boyfriend.
- “Castle” shows a future of strong women & weak men. As for marriage…
- The feminist revolutionaries have won. Insurgents have arisen to challenge the new order. As always, they’re outlaws.
- Men are abandoning the rat race, & changing American society.
- Why men are avoiding work and marriage.
- Will today’s young men marry? America’s future depends which of these answers is right.
- We’ve become a low testosterone America. Pussycats? More research needed, stat!
- Our scary future: sexbots are coming, powering the ‘sexodus’.
Books about the coming revolution, an alternative solution.